未來教會聚會形式—幾項原則和實行的深思 格雷格·斯特蘭德 (Greg Strand) 美國播道會神學和牧師/傳道認證執⾏主任
當居家隔離的初期， 我們很難想象如何來度過這個時期， 現在經歷過了數星期的隔離日子， 經過了許多生活形式的改變， 度過了高峰， 我們開始可以想想當政府放鬆了居家隔離的政策時， 我們應該如果恢複日常生活， 和恢複教會的實體聚會。
這個過程不會那麽容易快速， 我們不可能馬上回到疫情發生前的生活。 我們可以期待地禱告, 祈求神, 相信神讓一切好轉, 但我們都知道這個過程會是漸進的。
白宮在四月16號州長會議時， 發布 ”美國重啟指南“ ， 作為未來啟動的藍圖。 我們應該服從各地方政府， 或是州長， 或是市長的指令，因為他們的本意原是關心社區居民， 爭取居民的福利。 經由遵循， 我們表達了對周遭民眾的愛心。
當你和你的教會討論恢復的過程， 首先， 先看看目前的線上聚會， 這個形式有哪些優點， 有哪些缺點， 什麽應該保留， 什麽可以廢除？ 我們應該如何把握這個神給我們的經驗和機會， 去闊展神的事工？ 增加新的生活小組，增加網上傳道的方式。 從這次經驗我們學習到什麽？
牧師和長執必須明智地和會眾分享部分有關的訊息 和部分估計未來可能的計劃。比如讓會友知道教會有在考慮恢復實體聚會，是限制人數的聚會。 根據 “重啟指南”， 第一階段估計只允許少於50人， 加上許多其他的限制， 所以漸進式的重啟的方式， 也許是一部分會眾到教堂聚會， 而一部分仍然在線上聚會。 或是基於根據 “重啟指南”的有限人數的數堂崇拜.
這樣的溝通可以讓會眾感受到牧師長執的關心和愛心， 理解到牧師長執關心當下的情勢， 為著整個教會大家庭的利益著想。
以下幾點是采用參考Alejandro Mandes所整合的思考方向， 包括當下， 長程， 特殊， 或一般性的問題。(作者有採用,修訂和増加)
1。 從新回到教堂聚會前， 教堂必須全面清潔消毒。 正如以弗所書 5：2 “要以愛心待人”， 清潔消毒是愛心的表現， 也移開了會眾的疑慮擔心。 正如新約多處“互相接待” 的教導 (羅12:13; 希 13:2; 彼前 4:9)， 教會表現了親切， 好客，熱誠的特性。 教堂在聚會之後， 你也必須思考如何全面清潔消毒。 你的計劃如何?
2.還未開始教堂聚會前, 給予會眾了解聆聽階段(， 一方面歡迎大家回來教堂， 一方面解釋教會將有的應變措施， 例如椅子的擺設，必須保持社交距離， 以至於必須增加崇拜次數。 例如教堂會有提醒保持社交距離的標誌等等。
5. 征召和裝備代禱勇士， 讓他們以充滿生命力的禱告事奉来參加所有的聚會預備， 實行， 和後續的過程. 禱告操練信仰， 代禱更能表達我對他人的愛。 （如耶穌為祂神國的子民代求， 見羅8：34， 希7：25， 約 壹2：1）
”教會回到實體聚會前應該回答的24 個問題“ 是篇很好的文章。
Vanderbloemen 和數位大教會的牧師的討論： ”新肺疫情之後如何重啟教會“。 之後他會和數位小教會牧師一起討論。
我相信更多新的文章會出現， 正如疫情初期有許多篇文章曾幫助教會應變， 建立網上崇拜。 不管你有沒有讀每一篇文章， 重要的是你能分辨更新， 因你的教會的地點， 大小， 哪個問題該解決。 經過這個思考的過程， 在禱告中尋求從神而來的智慧 （雅1:5; 3:17), 服從聯邦， 州， 市政府的指令， 配合公共衛生部門 和流行病學家的建議， 全心信靠耶和華 (詩20：7； 箴 3:5-6)
The Doctrine of Covenant by Michael L. Aiken
Covenant is the way God relates to people. When God speaks he binds us, his image bearers, to
do what he requires of us. The study of covenants is complex, but this paper will seek to summarize
the issues and offer resources for further study.
There are basically three covenants in the Bible.
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be the God of his covenant people and they shall be his people. These promises are not only for
Abraham’s descendants but for all the nations (Gen. 12:3). Yes, land is promised to Abraham and
to his descendants, but Paul makes it clear that the promises were made to a singular seed which
is Jesus Christ (Gal. 3:16). All the physical promises given to Abraham and the patriarchs will give
way to greater realities fulfilled by the promised seed—Jesus Christ (Rom. 10:4; Heb. 9:1-14). The
land promised will give way to the new heavens and new earth (Matt. 5:5; 2 Pet. 3:13). The goal
God had in mind for the redemption of his people was glorification of the body (resurrection)
living in the land he promised which in its glorified state is imperishable and unable of being
defiled or destroyed—the new heavens and the new earth (Isa. 66:22-24; Ezek. 37; Rev. 21:1-4,
22-27; 22:1-5) The types, sacrifices, and festivals are shadows which when the substance to which
they point comes, which is Jesus Christ, they shall cease (Gal 3:25).
The Sinai covenant or the law of Moses is an important provision in God’s redemptive plan and
was given in redemptive history for the purpose of…
How is covenant theology different between paedobaptists and Baptists?
1 See Geerhardus Vos, Reformed Dogmatics vol. 2, translated and edited by Richard B. Gaffin, Jr. (Bellingham, WA:
Lexam Press, 2012), 36. Vos explains that “the covenant of grace is the implementation of the covenant of works in
the surety for us….[and that] one must bear in mind that the old dispensation of the covenant of grace bore a legal
character for Israel as a nation and, therefore, in its external form once more kept the covenant of works in view,
although the core of what God established with Israel was of course the continuation of the Abrahamic revelation
of the covenant of grace” (p. 36).
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The answer will be given generally because within each group there is not a consensus about the
nature of the covenants, etc. But historically and generally since the 17th century, when much of
covenant theology was developed, Baptists and paedobaptists had agreement and disagreements.
Both groups agreed to a covenant of works given to Adam. They further agreed there is one
covenant of grace first promised to Adam after the fall and subsequently to Abraham and to the
fathers of Israel with the nations also as recipients. They differed about who was under the
covenant of grace. They also differed in what constitutes the covenant of grace from Gen. 3:15
• Paedobaptists: See one covenant of grace which includes the Mosaic covenant also.
Further, paedobaptists saw this one covenant of grace having two administrations—one
in the Old Testament and one in the New Testament.
• The Baptists see two covenants running simultaneously in the Old Testament period. For
the Baptists, the Sinai covenant, is not a covenant of grace, but a covenant of works as
Thus, the paedobaptists see the members of the covenant of grace as including not only the
regenerate (believers) but also the children of believers in both dispensations. While paedobaptists
include unbelieving children in the covenant of grace and administer infant baptism as a seal and
sign of God’s righteousness, they do not believe in baptismal regeneration (Rom. 4:11). These
covenant children are to be nurtured in the gospel and encouraged to make a profession of faith as
they mature. The Baptists concede that under the Old Testament dispensation that there was mixed
membership including believers and their children, plus other adults who were not true believers
(cf. Rom. 2:28, 29). This major point of difference of who are the members of the New Covenant
(Jer. 31:31-34) has ramifications for church membership. Here Baptists believe the members of
the New Covenant are believers only based on Jeremiah 31:34 which states that all under the New
Covenant know the Lord because they have circumcised hearts and God’s law written on their
hearts by the Holy Spirit. Paedobaptists see continuity between the old and new dispensations of
the one covenant of grace and that the promise is for the children of believers also (Gen. 17:11;
The different views of baptism are primarily based on one’s view of covenant membership.
Consequently, our beliefs on covenant will frame our doctrine of the church (ecclesiology) which
in turn will affect our practice of either paedobaptism or credobaptism.
Bibliography for further study (listed from easiest to more complex):
Grudem ,Wayne. “The Covenants Between God and Man.” In Systematic Theology, 515-22.
Grand Rapids: Zondervan, 1994.
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Sproul, R.C.. “Nicknamed Covenant Theology.” In Grace Unknown: The Heart of Reformed
Theology, 99-114. Grand Rapids: Baker Books, 1997.
——— “Covenant” and “Covenant of Works.” In Essential Truths of the Christian Faith, 71-4.
Wheaton, IL: Tyndale House Publishers, 1992.
Pascal Denault, The Distinctiveness of Baptist Covenant Theology: A Comparison Between
Seventeenth-Century Particular Baptist and Paedobaptist Federalism Revised Edition.
Birmingham, Alabama: Solid Ground Christian Books, 2016.
Bavinck, Herman. “The Covenant of Grace.” In Reformed Dogmatics: Sin and Salvation in Christ.
Volume 3, 193-232. Grand Rapids: Baker Academic, 2006.
Every church needs to prioritize security and training in their children’s ministry. As a Family Pastor for four years at Church at Charlotte, and having overseen children’s ministry at two other churches, here are some resources I have assembled over the years. Please share the documents, links and tools you have found most helpful!
Here are some excellent books to consider for church leadership with kids and families:
Here are some book recommendations for Biblical parenting:
And here are some excellent resources available on Right Now Media:
Don’t leave the Lion of Judah out of your Covid calculus. He is the equation. He is the sum. He is moving; He has plans; He is arranging things for your good; He is preparing to come; He is using Covid for His purposes, Ephesians 1:11. The Lion works everything after the counsel of His will.
“They say Aslan is on the move – perhaps has already landed.
And now a very curious thing happened. None of the children knew who Aslan was any more than you do; but the moment the Beaver had spoken these words everyone felt quite different. Perhaps it has sometimes happened to you in a dream that someone says something which you don’t understand but in the dream it feels as if it has some enormous meaning – either a terrifying one which turns the whole dream into a nightmare or else a lovely meaning too lovely to put into words, which makes the dream so beautiful that you remember it all your life and are always wishing you could get into that dream again. It was like that now. At the name of Aslan each one of the children felt something jump in its inside. Edmund felt a sensation of mysterious horror. Peter felt suddenly brave and adventurous. Susan felt as if some delicious smell or some delightful strain of music had just floated by her. And Lucy got the feeling you have when you wake up in the morning and realize that it is the beginning of the holidays or the beginning of summer.”
C.S. Lewis, The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe (Chronicles of Narnia, #2)
Several years ago, our Life Group/Bible Study group happened upon a helpful and heartening new way to do “Bible Study.” We are not sure how it developed but we have all benefitted greatly from this new way of meeting. We meet once a week on Tuesday evenings. This type of meeting works for a wide range of personalities, from quiet and shy to the socially outgoing. We don’t attract and cater to a certain type of person. This group would not exist in the secular world and if it did would not have a nearly unanimous excitement about it. God has blessed us.
There was nothing terrible about our group at the beginning. It mostly consisted of a few of us asking questions based on some scripture we had been reading and a few others sharing what they had read that week. A few of us were on the same annual reading plan, so there started to be some excitement when someone else brought up scripture I had just read. I remember wanting to interrupt them and say, “hey I made a change in my life this week because of that verse”. I was so encouraged that I was experiencing spiritual growth in the same area of scripture they were, maybe even on the same day and I’m getting to hear about it. But more importantly they were sharing a verse I had read only days ago, not needing to recall something I had read months or years ago.
Soon I started to really look forward to meeting with everyone. I didn’t fret all week about having to muscle through an hour of small talk or feel like I was going to have to participate in a group discussion about some topic I knew nothing about. All I had to do was remember what I read that week. We were talking about the scripture I had just read, prayed over, and by God’s grace, lived it in some way.
Somehow, we went from a few people sharing, to a self-organized circle moving clockwise from Dave (because he is always impatiently ready with his Bible on his knee.) Throughout the week when I read my Bible I would begin thinking about what I might share. It changed the way I read, it made it immediately actionable in simply my ability to share it. This is where convictions hit me. How can I share this without living it? I am accountable to my share. How do you share a verse about “Praising God” and not be convicted about how little you have done it?
From 6-7pm we eat dinner together. The host family, there are four of us with homes that can accommodate everyone, plans the meal and most of the Life Group participants brings something to help with the meal. Taco bar, lasagna, hamburgers, deli sandwiches, enchiladas, etc. The meal usually is excellent and the ladies, mostly, take the lead. The guys do the barbecuing when it’s the fare. Clean-up is usually a group project; paper plates are the general rule. We’ve learn to keep it simple for the most part.
At 7pm we are mostly in the living room sitting in a large circle ready to share.
We have all been following a read the Bible in a year reading plan. Most everyone adheres to this plan in some degree. However, it is not a necessity to follow the plan to be part of the Life Group.
We begin with one of our more gregarious and genial members, Dave, who always has something exciting to share from his Bible reading that week. We proceed from Dave to the next person, either on his right or left, depending on who is most ready to go with a share. Each one in turn shares for 2 or 3 minutes what they have read that impressed them from their Bible reading for the week. From time to time someone will ask a question, which I try to answer quickly and judiciously, or someone else will comment and answer also. We try to keep the discussion short so that others can share. We do not want the sharing to digress into a Bible study. That may sound strange, but sometimes in-depth kinds of querying can be counterproductive – everyone stating their opinion with nothing really accomplished. And the newer believers feel lost in what they think might be trivia. We try and not miss the trees and forest because we are uncovering and looking for bugs under the bark. I try and quell that kind of discussion. Not that there isn’t a place for it. Just not in Life Group. Sometimes those discussions follow the group meetings one-on-one.
After we have gone around the circle we pray. I ask for special prayer requests and usually receive a few, but we are careful that the sharing doesn’t go for more than a minute or two. We’ve all been in studies where the sharing takes up all the time for praying. Folks are encouraged to bring their requests to God for others to hear and pray about also. We also pray about some of the things that have been shared from the Bible reading. I particularly try and remember the biblical truths shared and pray accordingly. I am try to model praying the Bible.
One note: if someone doesn’t feel comfortable sharing, or hasn’t had a good week of Bible reading they just say “amen” and we move to the next person. Of course, if someone says amen two weeks in a row it is noted and they are encouraged that two is the limit! All in good humor, but with a touch of seriousness.
The meeting concludes at 8pm. Most of the time people stay and chat for quite a while, but others who need to go can.
Why we like this model:
People are held accountable to read their Bibles by group encouragement. You want to keep up on the reading because YOU want to be in sync with the group. It’s not the leader pulling you aside and asking why you are not participating. When they read during the week they are compelled to think about what they are reading that would be good to share with the group. Everyone in our group is now a regular Bible reader! Wow! I am fine with a Bible study leader prodding me to keep up on some book we are on, or asking everyone if they filled out their study guide questions. Nothing is explicitly wrong with that. What is different and amazing about our group is that even on days I am swamped with work, in a bad mood, or just tired; I want to show up and have something to share. I am disappointed when someone else in the group has nothing to share, and so I have made myself accountable to others simply because I have assumed some accountability over them. I want them to share, therefore I need to share. Looking forward to other peoples’ thoughts on a matter (unless they are an expert on the subject) is not a natural quality of mine and is counterintuitive to me, but clearly this is different. It’s not a “man on the street opinion poll”, it’s a supernatural connection to others that God has led me to care about, because they care about Him and express it through the sharing of His words and how they are active in their life.
The meal fellowship follows the example of Jesus and the early church. Much of our meal fellowship is driven by the Bible reading and what’s happening in our lives. I remember a time when “casual” conversation about God with others, even at Church, was not common. Most of my life, even at church people would rarely even want to engage conversations on the Bible unless it was a Bible study or Sunday School class. I think this is a big deal and it had reminded me to do it more! Meal fellowship is perfect for this kind of interaction.
Praying without sharing encourages more praying and less getting it off our chest in front of a group of people. If we have a personal struggle or sin, we can share that one on one in a more appropriate setting during the meal or after the large group meets. Funny thing is that my shares are almost always veiled confessions. I don’t need to confess as an explicit prayer request. I don’t know that the two must always be tied together. The scripture convicts me in my failures of faith and leads to some articulation of what I learned from it in my share.
Many folks shy away from Life Groups because of the intimacy with a group of people that they don’t really know that well. We do not demand or require intimacy with all the people in the group. We aren’t required to share our feelings with everybody, in fact, we might be accused of even discouraging it. Deep intimacy, unraveling of life-long issues, is not our intent in the group meeting and that makes the group disarming, there is no pressure to “fit in” by sharing every aspect of your life. There is a spiritual intimacy that has developed naturally. Through sharing I have a better understanding of where my fellow believers are in their understanding of God’s word and how it’s impacting them. My mother-in-law visits the group from time to time and she asked me once if we shared our feelings in the group. I told her most definitely no. She said that was very nice.
The Bible study leader isn’t the focus of attention. The Word of Christ in the Bible is the focal point. The Bible study leader isn’t the one preparing, everyone in the group prepares. However, central coordination and moderation add stability since everyone knows there is someone to get us back on track if we drift into a long discussion. It is also good to know that if someone really misinterpreted scripture that there is someone that can gently bring them clarity or table the discussion for a better time. That’s why an elder appointed leader is essential.
I usually try and not correct an improper interpretation, unless it is egregious. If someone has a detail wrong, that’s ok. We are not there primarily to correct but to encourage Bible reading for life, and life to the encouragement of the saints. I’m getting better at this-hopefully. Since the group has such a wide range of Biblical maturity it often self corrects without an open rebuke. Even if someone is bent on a fringe interpretation (outside of heresy) the group at large will hear the supported position from the leader. This protects the weaker brothers.
Everyone is encouraged by the faith and the life of Christ that everyone comes to share. We see the life of Christ in the others as the light of the Gospel of Christ in the Word is read and explained in their lives. This is the best part of the group meeting. It is sometimes easier to see Christ in others than in yourself. That’s why we come together: Encouragement / Fellowship in Spirit. I was going to meet people on a spiritual level, we were going to be not only talking about God’s word, but how it was impacting us. I was not going there to hear Dave’s answer to study guide questions, I was getting to hear what God lead Dave to in the Word and often it was the classics like John 3:16 or verses I know so well I have become deaf to their potency. Even if it was just Kim or Josh or one of the kids saying, “I read this passage and it was great”. It would convict me in my simple agreement. I know that whatever book we are in is Chris’s favorite, well, second favorite after Isaiah. I’m thinking about these guys and their walk with Christ. God has given me this group that encourages me even when I am at home alone reading thinking about what they would say about a passage. Even some of the questions about confusing scripture or controversial subjects seem to lead back into personal encouragement. For example, we may get tied up in the Law from time-to-time but we quickly take it back to the one who fulfilled it, and what that means to us, and how we live.
We have a great mix of ages and life stages in our group: older single saints, older married saints, young married saints with small children, singles, students, older mature saints, older new believers, younger believers excited about the Christian life. I think is very healthy for our growth in Christ and our tendencies to over-emphasize our own life stage issues. My kids and I benefit from Point #7 being expressed from a 25-year-old man to an 80-year-old woman. I get to show my daughter not only other women as inspiration to her but to see men of every age loving and obedient to Christ, a quality I pray she will have in a husband on day. My son gets to interact with Godly men of all types, construction, fireman, retired, and office worker. He has prototypes of all his areas of interest. Charles Drew’s comments are worth noting, “‘Church is not an event. It is people–people whom God calls us to love. What is more, it is in a very important sense an involuntary community of people: we don’t choose our brothers and sisters–God does. And sometimes (oftentimes) those people are not terribly compatible with us–not the people we would choose to hang out with. But it is this very incompatibility that is so important, for at least two reasons. First, learning to love the people I don’t like is by far the best way to learn how to love (it’s easy to love people I happen to like). Second, the church is supposed to be a sociological miracle–a demonstration that Jesus has died and risen to create a new humanity composed of all sorts of people.” A Journey Worth Taking by Charles Drew
Craig Johnston and Bob Burris
From time to time, well maybe 3 times, someone has asked me what I’m currently reading. I’m usually working on several books at the same time, and sometimes, in a Mortimer Adler kind of way, if the book isn’t top notch, I don’t finish it. There is too much out there that is excellent to waste my time on something pedestrian. Adler’s book, entitled, How to Read a Book, was required reading in the past for college freshmen. It should still be required reading for everyone. One of his guidelines is that if the book starts well and drops off in quality, don’t finish it. If after a giving it a go, it isn’t that good, don’t waste your time.
Additionally, it is helpful to read books that are recommended by reliable sources. I seldom, if ever, read something that has not been highly recommended. There are many average and good and pretty good books out there. I want to read the great ones. This is a great one.
Here is the introduction to a 14 day devotional based on Dane Ortlund’s new book, Gentle and Lowly: the heart of Christ for Sinners and Sufferers, followed by the link to buy the book on Amazon.
By Pastor Darin Anderson (Oakwood Church, FL)
Two tools I have found profoundly helpful for managing my own time and supervising my staff are here:
Every staff member should have a clear and up to date job description. This should articulate their key result areas as an outline for year to year and month to month evaluation of effectiveness. How can anyone know they are being productive if they don’t know what they are being measured against? The ministry dashboard above is related to my job description as a Lead Pastor – it would need to be adjusted to match a different role or job description.
Along with clear marching orders, every staff member needs regular feedback. A formal review every year (using something like the evaluation form above) is a minimal standard. An informal mid-year review plus quarterly feedback and periodic written direction should supply the clarity and encouragement needed for effective ministry.
I have served in five EFCA churches in roles varying from Youth Pastor to Family Pastor, Associate Pastor, Outreach Pastor and Lead Pastor. I have served in a church of 100 and in a church of 2400. I have been a solo pastor with a volunteer team. And I have been a supervisor with up to 14 employees. I have hired and worked with some truly amazing staff members and I have made some really poor decisions related to hiring and management. I have given helpful and timely feedback to encourage and support my staff. And I have neglected or confused some direct reports causing them (and myself and the church) great frustration.
When I first started as a youth pastor, right out of college, I had virtually no structure or intentionality at all in my world. Thankfully I married a very organized military kid who encouraged me, for example, to produce the monthly calendar before the month started. In college I read The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People and some great church books like Purpose Driven Church and The Master Plan of Evangelism. These gave me some basic orientation toward avoiding the tyranny of the urgent and working my (and God’s) priorities.
But it was Pastor Mark Hoffman (now in Knoxville, then in Charlotte) who introduced me to a pattern of Intentional Living originally crafted by Steve Hudson (long time Director of Reach National, then called Mission USA, I believe). The idea is to take a monthly personal retreat for prayer, Bible study and planning. Spend 3-4 hours in prayer, study, journaling and reflection, ideally in a setting that nourishes your soul – for me that is usually outside in a peaceful park overlooking water. Then spend 2-3 hours reviewing your goals from last month and plotting your schedule for the next month in order to prioritize progress according to your Key Result Areas. Conclude by updating your Ministry Dashboard (or whatever written tool you use to document and express your progress and goals). Share that with your supervisor or elders to discuss within a week.
In addition to a monthly retreat, Hudson’s plan strongly encourages a 2-3 day Annual Retreat for additional time with the Lord (and, ideally, your wife) along with a more thorough evaluation of your goals and plans. I’ll be honest that I’ve only done a two day retreat twice in my 20 years of ministry as we have four boys ranging from 19 to 9. But I have repeatedly experienced the blessing of dedicated time with the Lord and the discipline of documenting progress and goals.
The Ministry Dashboard and Review documents above are simplified version I stole from Pastor Scott Lothery, XP of The Orchard in Chicago. I have been profoundly blessed to serve under godly and wise men like Mark and Scott who helped coach me from my natural flexibility into a disciplined intentionality that has greatly increased my own fruitfulness for the Lord and provided much needed clarity for those on my team. I pray these tools will be useful for you and your ministry!
In response to increasing numbers of kids who grow up in church but walk away from their faith as young adults, many churches have begun to rethink how ministry to children and youth is done. This began in the mid ‘90s with just a couple of church leaders pioneering different approaches to family ministry. Mark DeVries, in Family-Based Youth Ministry (1994), did not advocate dramatic structural changes, but called for a shift toward supporting the family and involving parents more intentionally in the discipleship of students.
At about the same time, Reggie Joiner (on staff with Andy Stanley in Atlanta) took more radical programmatic steps to bring parents and kids together. Interestingly, his quest was prompted by the film The Lion King. As they drove home, the whole family was engaged in a significant discussion about the essence of family, personal identity and sacrificing for others (remember Simba and Mufasah?). Reggie began to wonder why they weren’t driving home from church having the same kinds of discussions, and concluded that the reason was that every family member was having a different experience each Sunday! It was the shared experience of the movie that brought them together and gave them a platform for meaningful dialogue. Why couldn’t the church provide a high quality shared experience that would bring parents and kids together on a regular basis? And so, KidStuf was born – a weekly 45 minute production for the whole family. Today, thousands of churches around the world use 252Basics curriculum and run a KidStuf-style program.
What started at isolated churches, like pebbles tumbling downhill, began to impact other churches and soon after the start of the new millennium an identifiable family ministry movement was underway. Supported by research from Barna, Lifeway and others like Ken Ham of the Creation Museum (Already Gone, 2009), old methods of age-segregated programming were called into question. I still remember Barna’s chilling observation after more than 20 years watching the American church: “We are not even reaching our children!” The facts are these: roughly 60% of 60 year olds attend church, and 50% of 50 year olds and so on down to only 20% of 20 year olds regularly attend any church! Today’s young adults are far less interested in “doing church” than the generations preceding them. This data does not mean that church-based, age-segregated programs have been the cause of the problem. But it does mean that 40+ years of church-based programs have contributed to an epidemic of parental failure to effectively train children to be “spiritual champions” (to use the term from Barna’s ’03 book).
God’s Way: Parents as the primary disciple-makers of their children
God has always placed the responsibility for spiritual training squarely on the shoulders of parents (Deut. 6:4-9), so the majority of the blame for kids abandoning the spiritual heritage of their family must fall on parents. But the church has enabled this parental disengagement by regularly communicating that the primary duty of parents is just to “get the kids to church!” The time has long since come for the church to reverse this pattern of tacitly encouraging parental negligence and to sound the trumpet call for parental responsibility!
The Bible is crystal clear about how the faith is to be passed on from one generation to the next: through parents. First, the word of God and the love of God must be “upon the hearts” of the parents (Deut. 6:6). Training children cannot succeed unless parents model the vibrant, joyful faith they want their children to develop. Second, parents must impress the truth of God’s word on their children – they must “engrave” His law on their hearts and lives. This should happen both formally, through planned Bible studies, and informally, through the day-to-day interactions of life (Deut. 6:7-9). It is significant to note that in the Biblical context, the primary responsibility for training children fell upon fathers (Eph. 6:4). Yet many Christian families today are led by mothers, since so many fathers have failed to take leadership in their homes, or are not led at all.
3 Models of Family Ministry
To implement this principle of empowering parents, three models of family ministry have emerged. On one extreme are Family-Integrated churches that have eliminated all age-segregated programs and keep families together virtually all of the time, focusing on equipping parents (especially fathers) to train their children at home. On the other side is what DeVries calls Family-Based churches that have continued most of their age-organized ministries but have built the philosophy of supporting families and engaging parents in everything the church does. Seeking to balance these two approaches are what Dr. Timothy Paul Jones (Southern Seminary) has called Family-Equipping churches that keep some age-based programs but structure the overall ministry around training and supporting parents as the primary disciple-makers of their children.
As this graphic shows, there is some overlap between these models of ministry, but the extremes of an age-segregated, progammatic church and a fully integrated church are dramatically different. Most churches today are shifting from a program-based philosophy to at least a Family-Based or “Family-Friendly” approach. But many are going even further to communicate to parents, both verbally and structurally, that raising kids to know and love Jesus is the job of mom and dad – with the church moving into a support role.
An Epidemic of Parental Disengagement
This is a major paradigm shift for those of us who grew up with age-segregated structures like AWANA clubs, youth group, Bible camps and conferences. Research supports the hunch of many pastors today that, “most parents are perfectly content to sit back and allow the church to assume the role of primary spiritual caregiver in their children’s lives” (Perspectives p. 129). The Barna Research Group concluded in 2003 that 85% of Christian parents recognized that they are responsible for their children’s spiritual development – but “the vast majority were not personally engaged in any activities that might guide their children to spiritual maturity” (“Parents Accept Responsibility,” ch. 2 n. 6). “In a typical week, fewer than 10 percent of parents who regularly attend church with their kids read the Bible together, pray together (other than at meal times) or participate in an act of service as a family” (Transforming Children into Spiritual Champions, p. 78). When the church seems to be doing such a good job – with fun activities, stage-production teaching, and full-color-glossy Bible class worksheets – parents often mistakenly conclude that the work is being done. This is how most of us handle education and training for sports and other hobbies – leaving the teaching and coaching to trained specialists – why shouldn’t we simply find the best spiritual trainers and bring our kids to them?
The answer is that God has already made it very clear that professionals in the church are not primarily responsible for the spiritual training of children – parents are. Family Pastor Brian Haynes wrote about how, over the last 50 years, the church moved away from the historic parent-driven approach: “The church growth movement redefined success… from an emphasis on spiritual formation to an emphasis on numeric growth… We developed children’s ministries and youth ministries and gave hired professionals the responsibility for mentoring too many children. In short, we did it our way” (Shift – What it takes to finally reach families today, p. 37). The results of raising children “our way” instead of God’s way are now unmistakable – you can’t ignore them any more than you can ignore a burst pipe over your living room. Kids who grew up going to church, a solid majority of them, will quit church altogether by their second year of college.
Laying the Foundation Early
Youth ministry has been compared to a river rescue mission, pulling students out of a fast-flowing, dangerous current. The shift to family ministry is a move upstream to keep the teens from falling into the river in the first place by strengthening the family and equipping parents while the kids are still young. Barna’s book, Transforming Children into Spiritual Champions (2003), revealed that, “the moral foundations of children are generally determined by… age nine” (p. 47), and that a child’s core beliefs and spiritual identity are largely in place by age 13 (pp. 34, 37). Parents can mistakenly assume that preschool age children are not learning significant spiritual lessons, but the truth is that the first five years lay the foundation for what a person is likely to believe about God, family, the church and what is important for the rest of his or her life (p. 58)!
The chart below portrays the practical reality of parenting that as kids get older they become increasingly independent. When children are young, parental involvement and influence are total. Through the teen years and into young adulthood, the role of parents changes from one of direct control to more of a coaching relationship and then into a trusted friendship. It is very natural for parents to give their kids more and more freedom as the maturing young people show more and more responsibility in their decision making.
Parents can stray from this healthy movement in either of two ways. Some give young children too much freedom, too soon, causing insecurity and confusion. Other parents hang on to their authority too long, causing resentment and rebellion. Parenting never follows a smooth and predictable course, but this general pattern of raising wise, responsible, independent young men and women should certainly provide a guiding line for parents to follow. Through this 18-20 year process, recognizing the reality of the temptations and pressures in the world today, the church must come alongside parents to support and equip them to effectively raise God-loving, Christ-following, Spirit-filled children.
A Strategic Approach to Family Ministry
In the early years, the Family Ministry should focus on encouraging and exhorting parents to model a healthy marriage, passionate faith and godly values. Young children are always picking up on the things that are truly important, not only in what we say, but especially in what we do. A comprehensive plan for Christian Education can provide helpful guidance, resources and mile markers to assist parents in shaping a Biblical worldview and positive habits of spiritual living. Then, through the teen years, the church can provide additional leaders as “Assistant Coaches” (the parents are the Head Coaches) to further build up and mobilize students as sold-out followers of Jesus. The greatest support any church can provide for families is the ministry of prayer – pleading with God on behalf of parents, kids and teens for His protection, blessing, wisdom and grace.
3 Commitments of a Parent-Equipping Church
In order to effectively equip parents to succeed in raising godly children, there are three commitments the church must make: to provide consistent communication, practical training and an intentional process of disciplemaking. First, the church must consistently communicate – both in words and in the structure of ministry – that parents are the primary disciple-makers of their kids. This message must come through loud and clear in the preaching and teaching ministry, the communication vehicles of the church and in the calendar of events. If any of those things sends no message, or a conflicting message, parents will continue on what has become the default path of letting the church make the disciples. This is why I believe some structural changes are helpful and necessary in leading families through this paradigm shift. If the church continues to provide all the same programs for reaching and training kids and teenagers then we are, in essence, saying that it is our job and the parents’ role is just to bring the kids to us.
Second, the church must train and equip parents to be effective disciple-makers. “Parents are not so much unwilling to provide more substantive training to their children as they are ill-equipped to do such work” (Barna, “Parents Accept Responsibility,” quoted in Perspectives p. 25). No successful army sends untrained, ill-equipped soldiers onto the battlefield. But in many ways that is precisely what we have done in the church by saying, “parents, this is your job!” without providing regular, practical training and support. Parents need training, encouragement and resources on how to do family devotions and discipleship. And they need to see leadership level families modeling and talking about the priority of a weekly “family Bible time,” or “faith talk.”
Finally, the church must provide an intentional discipleship pathway that parents can follow with their children. Many churches fail to present a clear discipleship pathway for adults, so the process of maturing in Christ can be even foggier when it comes to children and youth. This is why some churches are now using Milestones to provide growth markers for parents and kids to measure progress and celebrate the work God is doing. These Milestones include salvation, worldview formation, coming of age and graduation. The church provides focused training and resources to help parents move their children to the next growth marker on the pathway.
A 7 Milestone Pathway to Parent-Driven Disciplemaking
These milestones were adapted from Brian Haynes’ Shift – What it takes to finally reach families today (2009).
Milestone 1 – Dedication
Even before a baby is born the church can begin its ministry of equipping parents by offering a class on child dedication. The purpose of this class is to teach parents the key principle that they are the primary disciple-makers for their child. The ceremony of dedication is both a public recognition of this Biblical truth and an opportunity to remind all parents and the whole church of this fundamental concept. At this first milestone the partnership between church and family is formally acknowledged as parents are commissioned to take responsibility for shaping the faith of their child and the church is challenged to support the parents in this all important task.
¬ Parents’ Responsibility: publicly commit to raising their child(ren) to love and follow Christ, reading a prayer of blessing for the child(ren)
o Resources: The Five Love Languages of Children, Chapman & Campbell; The Power of a Praying Parent, Stormie Omartian
¬ Church’s Role: celebrate the parents’ dedication and commit to prayerfully support them
o Parent Seminar: Child Dedication Class
o Church Event: Child Dedication Ceremony
Milestone 2 – Salvation (age 2-8)
The foundations for what a person will believe and how she will live are laid in the first few years of life. In many ways the most strategic investment a church can make is in equipping parents to be intentional faith-shapers during the preschool and early elementary years. This does not mean parents should seek to manipulate children into making a profession of faith. But it does mean that parents should actively model faith-filled prayer, the habit of Bible study and reading as a family, faithful church attendance and service to others. Much more is caught than taught in the early years, but as language develops parents can begin to use picture Bibles, books, music and fun activities to begin teaching core doctrines about God, Jesus, the Bible and salvation – in simple words, of course.
Building on these early positive impressions, parents will have many opportunities to explain to their children what it means to trust in Jesus, asking him to wash away their sins and become their leader. Supported by Sunday School teachers and church programs that emphasize the gospel, parents should be able to guide their children to a faith commitment. This momentous milestone should then be celebrated, both as a family and as a church. If the child is old enough and the family desires to pursue baptism, that can be a memorable event in the child’s life and a powerful encouragement to the church. If the child is younger, the parents may choose to celebrate through a family banquet, a spiritual birthday party or some other joy-filled event, possibly along with other families in a church setting.
¬ Parents’ Responsibility: lay the spiritual foundation of love for God, trust in Jesus and obedience to God’s Word, leading to salvation in Christ
o Resources: Shepherding a Child’s Heart, Ted Tripp; Leading your child to Jesus, Michael Staal; The New Dare to Discipline, James Dobson
¬ Church’s Role: provide resources and programs to support these foundations and celebrate faith commitments (in baptism for older kids and teens)
o Parent Seminar: Laying Foundations of Faith
o Church Event: Gospel-centered Family Night (The Most Important Class of the Year); Celebration of Salvation
Milestone 3 –Formation (age 8-12)
With a solid foundation in place – a positive view of God, a reverence for His Word, a heart for Jesus and a commitment to the church – parents can help their children build a strong, Biblical worldview through the elementary years. Continuing the habits of daily devotions and weekly “family Bible times,” parents can both formally and informally teach their kids Biblical doctrines (salvation, the Trinity, the Bible, Jesus, the Holy Spirit, people, etc.) and spiritual habits (prayer, Bible study, worship, service, etc.). Through regular parent-child interaction kids will answer the critical questions: who am I? and whose am I? What better gift can parents give their children than a Christ-centered identity at an early age?
To celebrate the completion of this milestone, the church can provide a spring retreat for 4th-5th graders and their parents. This weekend away combines fun activities and memory-makers with more intentional teaching to reinforce what parents have been teaching for the last several years. Many families may also choose to do a family celebration, like a father-son camping trip or a mother-daughter overnight, to provide a setting for discussion of the physical changes and other realities their child will soon face as he enters middle school.
¬ Parents’ Responsibility: model and teach a Biblical worldview related to God, sin, salvation, Jesus, the Bible, the church and missions, fostering spiritual disciplines and the establishment of Christian identity
o Resources: Newlifediscipleship.com (13 lessons in basic discipleship, free downloads); Preparing for Adolescence, James Dobson; Revolutionary Parenting, George Barna
o Family Celebration: Weekend Getaway – Father/Son, Mother/Daughter fun trip to discuss worldview, identity and coming changes and challenges (suggested gift: compass / necklace – symbol of identity in Christ)
¬ Church’s Role: provide resources and programs to support this worldview development
o Parent Seminar: Building a Biblical Worldview
o Church Event: 4th-5th grade parent-child retreat
Milestone 4 – Holiness (6th-8th grade)
It may be an elephant nobody wants to talk about, but it is definitely in the room whenever middle school students are present: sex. Well meaning parents may be able to insulate their young teens for a while, but at some point they have to prepare their kids for the realities of the world we live in. “Isolationism, though appealing, isn’t the answer. Instead of protecting our children from the outside in, we need to strengthen them from the inside out” (Shift, p. 68). The habit of weekly Bible Time as a family, along with an open parent-child relationship, should provide many platforms to discuss how bodies change in adolescence and how to honor God through a commitment to holiness. This milestone is clearly broader than sexuality, but it must include deliberate study and discussion of God’s view of sex (Gen. 1:28; 2:24-25) and the blessed protection of purity (e.g. Eph. 4:17-5:21).
Through late elementary school and middle school parents can engage not only Biblical holiness and sex, but also healthy friendships, communication, and one-another ministry and outreach. Holiness is about being fully set apart for God’s use, so movement toward this milestone should include discussions, programs and events that challenge young teens to take ownership of their faith and yield their hearts and bodies to God (Rom. 12:1-2). As students make such commitments, baptism can serve as a powerful symbol of dying to self and rising to life in Christ (Rom. 6:1-6). During these transitional years students begin to experience greater independence from mom and dad, elevating the church’s role in providing godly mentors who can facilitate supplemental Bible studies and build mentoring relationships. The church-family partnership may also result in special events like Bible conferences and missions trips that further challenge students to take hold of their faith and live fully for God.
¬ Parents’ Responsibility: intentionally and consistently teach and dialogue about Biblical holiness including God’s view of relationships, marriage, love and sex, leading to a commitment to purity.
o Resources: Learning about Sex Series, Concordia Publishing (a 7 book progressive series starting with 3-5 year old children); Age of Opportunity, Paul Tripp; The Bible Instruction Course (EFCA)
o Family Celebration: in response to the child’s commitment (and possibly baptism), host a party and give a symbolic gift (e.g. a purity ring)
¬ Church’s Role: provide resources and programs to support this commitment to holiness
o Parent Seminar: Modeling and Teaching Biblical Holiness
o Church Event: 7th-8th grade parent-child retreat, encouraging a commitment to purity that is celebrated publicly in a worship service
Milestone 5 – Maturity (9th-10th grade)
The teen years are often treated as a responsibility-free intermission for kids to “discover themselves,” and just have fun (Perspectives pp. 27-30). In our increasingly secular culture, this introduces a dangerous array of temptations for teens without solid Biblical moorings. Parents must refuse to passively step back from their teens and allow other influences to take center stage. “Schools, media, and peers are the ‘disciplers’ of America’s children – discipling them in secular humanism and vague, self-centered spirituality” (Perspectives p. 67). A 2005 study revealed that the belief system of a large majority of American teens (including those raised in the church) can be described as moral therapeutic deism: “religion is all about doing better and becoming happier” (Christian Smith, quoted in Perspectives p. 141).
It is this context that parents must get back into the driver’s seat (still recognizing their teens are on a journey to independence) and maintain an active, disciplemaking role as long as their kids are in the house. As beneficial as youth pastors and other adult mentors are through middle school and high school, they should serve as a supplement for, not a replacement of, parental engagement in Biblical training. In many ways training should intensify during the later teen years as kids show more wisdom and can take on more responsibility. The church should actively empower students who show a heart for the Lord and for ministry and provide opportunities to serve and utilize their gifts to build up the church. Youth can often lead the way for the church in evangelism by reaching out to their lost friends, helping to win whole families to Christ. Local service projects and overseas missions trips can include mature teens, with the guidance and involvement of their parents (unless those parents are absent or disengaged spiritually themselves).
The passage to adulthood should flow naturally from the four preceding milestones. A teenager with a foundational love for God and commitment to Christ who has built a Biblical worldview and made a commitment to holiness has already taken most of the steps necessary to become a godly man or woman. (Think of how many adults you know that have not taken all of these steps and yet are often viewed as godly leaders.) All that remains is for parents to teach their maturing teens about Biblical manhood and womanhood and guide them into discovering their spiritual gifts and meaningful service. Instead of allowing teenagers to drift through their teen years, parents should challenge them to take responsibility as committed followers of Christ to live every day for him and him alone!
¬ Parents’ responsibility: model and teach Biblical manhood and womanhood, encouraging their teens to step up as responsible, faithful young adults
o Resources: Spiritual Milestones, Weidmann, Ledbetter; Raising a Modern-Day Knight, Robert Lewis; Shift – What it takes to finally reach families today, Brian Haynes
o Family Celebration: Rite of Passage – a gathering of significant adults in the life of the teen to speak truth, encouragement hope into his or her life. Parents provide a gift symbolic of their prayers and dreams for the young man or woman (e.g. sword, necklace, Study Bible).
¬ Church’s role: provide resources and encouragement for parents to facilitate this passage to adulthood.
o Parent Forum: a discussion of how to motivate teens to take responsibility and move into Biblical manhood and womanhood.
Milestone 6 – Graduation (11th-12th grade)
As students finish high school and prepare for their next steps, “parents need to stay connected relationally and continue to lead their children spiritually” (Shift p. 94). They need to actively prepare their kids to defend their faith, answer objections, develop life skills like money management and continue the discussion on dating and marriage. Teens should have at least one or two “Assistant Coaches” at the church who are also speaking truth into their lives, offering encouragement and support. This additional scaffolding should help support the students as they transition into college and young adulthood. But parents remain the primary architects and truth-builders in the lives of their teens. What has been modeled and taught in the home has, without a doubt, been caught through the preceding 17 or 18 years. This is the time to take advantage of the few remaining moments that the kids are at home.
¬ Parents’ Responsibility: teach and discuss critical life skills like apologetics, love and marriage, money management and vocational calling; prepare a written blessing expressing their prayer for their child
o Resources: Mere Christianity, C.S. Lewis; Letters from Dad, Greg Vaughn; The Reason for God, Tim Keller
¬ Church’s Role: encourage parents to remain engaged and support them in equipping their teens for life
o Parent Seminar: Preparing my Teen for Life
o Church Event: Senior Send-off – formal dinner for seniors and parents to celebrate God’s work in the students’ lives
Milestone 7 – Life in Christ (everyone)
This milestone applies to all believers and thus serves as a catch-all for those who enter the Milestone process part way. The church’s teaching and equipping environments such as worship services, small groups and adult classes all support growth toward this milestone. True, we will not fully experience life in Christ until we die or he returns, but we should still make it our goal to seek him with all our heart, soul, mind and strength! This milestone, then, represents the church’s adult discipleship pathway – how everyone is expected to continually grow in their faith and obedience to Christ. When students graduate from high school they should be well trained and prepared to love and follow Jesus for the rest of their lives. This is the greatest gift and legacy any parents can hope to pass on to their children, so it should be the passionate, prayerful focus of the church to equip parents to give this all-important gift!
¬ Resources: A Celebration of Discipline, Richard Foster; Victory Over the Darkness, Neil Anderson; The Master Plan of Evangelism, Robert Coleman
Summary & Implications:
“Let me ‘splain. No, there is too much. Let me sum up.”
— Inigo Montoya, The Princess Bride
Most churches, Christian leaders and parents today see the need to adjust how youth and children’s ministry are done in order to better empower and equip parents. The Bible is clear that parents are responsible for the spiritual training of their children (Deut. 6:4-9; Eph. 6:1-4), but many Christian parents struggle to find practical ways to consistently invest in the discipleship of their kids and teenagers. It seems much easier to just enroll the kids in a fun, Bible-teaching program or find a strong youth ministry for your teens. Plus, that seems to be what the kids themselves want. But more and more research is revealing that this time-tested strategy is contributing to an epidemic of young adults walking away from the faith they grew up in. It is time to rethink how we do family ministry.
In response to this cultural reality and the Biblical charge to parents, some churches are abandoning age-segregated ministries altogether: no Sunday School, no children’s church, no youth group. They are focusing all of their efforts on exhorting and equipping parents, primarily dads, to effectively train their own kids. Other churches have not gone this far structurally, keeping some age-graded programs like Sunday School, but have totally reworked the discipleship pathway and overall message of the whole church to emphasize the role of parents in training their own children. It is my proposal, as described in this paper, that we follow this second approach.
Practically, this would have several implications:
• Our communication and overall message would frequently (at least monthly) include the direct encouragement and exhortation of parents to be the primary disciple-makers of their children. For example, FUSION (our monthly program for parents and kids together, see gracefusion.weebly.com) would be presented as a parent-equipping program and as our central strategy for supporting parents.
• Parents should be encouraged and challenged to have a weekly Family Bible Time – a structured, Bible-based discussion, tailored to the ages of the kids where they read together, pray together, sing together and play together. We should elevate this expectation through preaching, teaching and small groups and facilitate the public sharing of stories of God’s work in kids’ hearts and lives – celebrating the parents that are getting it.
• An evaluation and revision of scheduled programs and events to prioritize the equipping of parents and the movement of children through a strategic discipleship pathway (e.g. instead of just a campout/canoe trip for the whole church, we run a 3rd-5th grade retreat for kids and their parents). See the 7 Milestones above for details on this pathway.
• Our youth ministry is parent-directed. We recently formed a Parents Council (including the Associate Pastor and current youth volunteers) that meets at least quarterly to prayerfully plan and implement programs and events for the youth and their families. This does not mean parents will be involved in all youth programs, but that they will take responsibility for setting the goals and direction of the ministry.
“May God himself, the God of peace, sanctify you through and through…
The one who calls you is faithful and he will do it.” 1 Thessalonians 5:23-24
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I’m not a real podcast person. Admittedly, not a great first line for this post. Maybe it’s my short attention span, or that I’m not really interested in listening to small talk for 15 minutes before anything substantive is said….well this one is different. Its only 36 minutes long, so they get at it fairly quickly. You skip to the 2 minutes 27 seconds if you want to miss the cat comments, etc. Additionally you can speed up to a max. of 2X, and they actually address current issues effectively.
Here’s the link and introduction from the TEDS podcast center. And, once you listened to this one you can access others.
In this episode, Dr. Michelle Knight and Dr. James Arcadi interview Dr. Kevin J. Vanhoozer, Research Professor of Systematic Theology at Trinity Evangelical Divinity School, who has been back at TEDS since 2012. (We’re so glad that he is!)
James and Michelle learn about Kevin’s long-standing interest in hermeneutics, his passion for Christian education, and his vision for equipping the church and the academy. We also learn about how those values have shaped his career.
If you enjoy this episode and want to understand more about the relationship being sound doctrine and faithful Christian practice, be sure to grab a copy of Kevin’s latest book: Hearers and Doers (2019), published by Lexham Press.
I would like to share with you a transformative experience in my life and ministry. I have enjoyed and been helped by conferences and retreats over the years at the district and national level. For about 10 years I went to the Bethlehem Conference for Pastors in Minneapolis. These have been helpful for me. Annually, for the past 12 years, I have participated in the Simeon Trust workshop in Des Moines. I wouldn’t miss these workshops. But, at all these events I have experienced a sense of loneliness and longing. I wasn’t sure for what until I went to Massachusetts for the Spurgeon Sabbatical. From 1996-2017, the Ockenga Institute at Gordon Conwell Theological Seminary sponsored what was called the Spurgeon Sabbatical. It was essentially a ten-day retreat for about 16 pastors. I was blessed to attend 4 of the years it was offered. Others were even more regular attendees with one pastor not missing even one.
I would like to describe what we did there together, hoping that there might be some professors or pastors who would put together something similar in the future. Pastors need it.
We arrived together in the Boston area by aircraft or by car and gathered on the campus of Gordon Conwell. We were aggressively welcomed by Dr. David Horn who was the organizer and a sort of shepherd/counselor to us for the 10 days. We gathered for supper the first evening and got to know one another. It was quickly apparent that humor would regularly be on the menu.
The next morning, we entered the routine for our time together. We got up and had breakfast together followed by a half hour of worship. Dr. Horn had recruited a very capable worship leader for us. After worship we were led into the Scriptures by Dr. Scott Hafemann (1996-2012) or Dr. Sean McDonough (2013-2017). Many of the attendees were Dr. Hafemann’s former students. I was an exception, having gone to TEDS. We would spend the entire morning in a part of the Bible, discussing the language, context, grammar, connections to the rest of Scripture, and applications to our lives. Both men were gifted and intentional shepherds, building into our lives, loving us, and setting an example in the Word.
Lunch together was preceded by a short devotional and then followed by an hour of one of the pastors in attendance telling his life story in some way, complete with recent lessons and developments and prayer requests. At times, the sharing was deeply emotional. Then we would all pray for that pastor for at least a half hour. After a few hours of afternoon break when we would go on excursions or just relax, we did the same thing again for supper. Twice a day we would focus our attention as a group entirely on one of the pastors there. This created an atmosphere of amazing encouragement.
In the evening, following supper, sharing and prayer, we gathered again for a discussion of a book we had all read in preparation for the Sabbatical. Finally, we closed out the day with a half hour of worship.
For 10 days.
Saturday and Sunday, when we went to a church nearby, were slightly different in schedule, but still we were mostly together. I felt like what we had was a little taste of Dietrich Bonhoeffer’s Life Together. I found it refreshing, deeply meaningful, and full of fun. I love the men that I got to be with for those times. I stay in touch still with some of them.
After the third Spurgeon Sabbatical that I attended I was home telling my four kids about it. All of them were over the age of 16 and had served at Hidden Acres, an EFCA camp in central Iowa. I explained that it was like I got to be a monk for 10 days. That did nothing for them. They do not have a monastic inclination. Then I told them that I essentially went to Bible camp for pastors. We had a teacher, a counselor, and a worship leader. That made sense to all of them.
I propose that every pastor could use 10 days at Bible camp now and again.
Pastor John Mochel